How To Deal With Failures?

Life is not a bed of roses

So often we talk about how to succeed but seldom do we discuss on how to cope with failures. As a result, many of us are kind of helpless when dealing with our own failures.

I would like to share some meaningful words found in the book written by Dr. Sam Sivarajah, on ‘Failure is Not Final’. 

THE MEANING OF FAILURE

What it Means

1. Failure means you are human. You are not God.
2. Failure means you just discovered what does not work.
3. Failure means you are now aware that there are other ways to achieve your goal.
4. Failure means you are going to keep trying again.
5. Failure means you have just learned something new.
6. Failure means you just made a mistake that can be corrected.
7. Failure means you could have been misled or misguided.
8. Failure means you have not given your best shot yet.
9. Failure means there is room for challenges.
10. Failure means the best is yet to come.
11. Failure means the battle for success is not over yet.
12. Failure means you did not get all the right information or help.

What it Doesn’t Mean

1. Failure doesn’t mean you are not intelligent.
2. Failure doesn’t mean you are fated.
3. Failure doesn’t mean God has forsaken you.
4. Failure doesn’t mean you will fail all the time.
5. Failure doesn’t mean there is no hope for you.
6. Failure doesn’t mean you are a failure.
7. Failure doesn’t mean it is genetic.
8. Failure doesn’t mean the whole world is against you.
9. Failure doesn’t mean it is final.
10. Failure doesn’t mean you have to quit.

THE THINGS THAT YOU SHOULD DO WHEN YOU FAIL

1. Admit that you have made a mistake.
2. Accept the fact that you lacked sufficient information and help.
3. Take charge of your failure.
4. Analyse your mistake and find the right solution.
5. Renounce the “spirit of failure” to Christ in prayer.
6. Seek God and His helps.
7. Consult successful people for helps.
8. Refocus on your goal.
9. Make success your chief aim.
10. Concentrate on success by studying the life and works of successful people.
11. Believe that you can be successful.

THE THINGS THAT YOU SHOULD NOT DO WHEN YOU FAIL

1. Never take it too personal. Don’t get emotional.
2. Never condemn yourself.
3. Never give up hope.
4. Never build a monument of failure.
5. Never conclude that you are a failure.
6. Never nest yourself with people who love to stay in failure.
7. Never surrender to the “spirit of failure”.
8. Never program for failure by thinking or worrying about it.